Tips for the Working Mom! Feel Guilty No More!
In the modern world, it is quite a common and necessary thing for Mothers to work. This could be for many reasons. For example, it could be because of financial commitments or because you don’t want to dent career prospects. It may be because you want to provide the best possible financial future for your child.
There are many reasons, but the main point to remember is that being a working Mom is totally fine. There is no need to feel guilty or worry about being a “bad parent.” Channel this energy into improving what parenting time you have.
There is a way to combine being a great parent with a career, the aim of this article is to give you some ideas and tips to inspire you towards this!
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying it will be easy! Nothing to do with parenting is easy anyway! What I am saying is, with some effort put in the right places, it is achievable.
You will be master of your diary!
The number one tips here is organisation. The second and third tip are also organisation! You get the idea, right??
As a working Mom you will be busy and your spare time will be precious. Make sure to organise yourself and schedule everything to be like a well oiled machine!
This schedule needs to be personal to you, to meet your needs and requirements, whilst giving your child the quality parenting they need!
Working mom Diary Hacks!
To be the master of your diary, we have some simple but important tips to start you out.
Mornings are valuable, don’t waste them. As a working Mom, this will likely be your biggest opportunity to spend quality time with your children. You will be fresh and attentive, showing your child that you are there to support them. Make sure to wake up early enough to get your child up and through their morning routines. When they are old enough to need help with this, you can spend more time have a great family breakfast instead. Yes, it is early. Yes, you may be tired! But it will be worth it. If you struggle to have enough time, you can try and complete some of your morning chores the evening before.
Organise your free time. The time you have during evenings and weekends should not always be left to chance. If you fill up this time ad-hoc it will be inefficient and probably more stressful (as you will probably miss things out!). Therefore, make sure you plan out all events and activities that you feel are important. It could be routine things such as buying groceries or running errands. Or it could be important experiences you want to share with your child. All these things should be planned out and scheduled.
This is not a perfect puzzle. It will be impossible for everything to run perfectly as a working Mom. You may not able to do a scheduled event because of last minute commitments, for example. Don’t worry, don’t panic. This is the WHOLE reason we have a schedule. This will make it easy for you to reschedule whatever you missed. Planning a schedule will make it easy to be flexible. It will also give you peace of mind that everything is getting done! Be a working Mom is sometimes a juggling act, being organised is the best way to combat that.
What else can you do?
Well, that sounds simple do far right?? Just be organised! That is a large part of it, but we there are a few more key tips to go.
Maintain a good connection with your child.
As a working Mom you will be busy. In this situation it will be easy to start taking a step back and letting other people help your child during key moments. If you let this happen, a distance may start to build in your relationship with your child. You will find a lot of working Moms worrying about this, for good reason.
The key is to not worry about the time you don’t have, but to utilise the time you do have in the best way possible. If you make this time high quality, you will maintain a great connection with your child. They will feel that you are involved and a big influence in their world.
If you take the earlier advice to organise yourself and keep a schedule, you will be able to find the time to regularly do things your child enjoys. Have memorable experiences and share those important moments as parent and child. Play your child’s favourite games, take them to their favourite park. Whatever it is, you will have the time to do it.
Take time to recharge!
Living the busy life of a working Mom, it is important that you find the time to take a break and enjoy yourself! This could be a manicure or a session in the gym. Whatever helps you relax and feel good.
Some may argue that, by doing this, you are lessening the already smaller amount of time you have with your child. However, I have a different view!
If you spend all your time working and being with your child, you will probably end up a tired and “frazzled” Mom. What do you think your child would enjoy or benefit from more. More time with a “frazzled” Mom or less time with a rested and happy Mom? I think the choice is clear. We will go back to the term “quality” here. It is not only about the amount of time you spend with your child, but also about the quality of that time!
Maintain your relationships
Being a Mom to a younger or new child is important, we can all agree on that. However, you must try hard to find time to spend with the other members of your family.
If you don’t do this, you may find those relationships starting to break down. This would only bring more stress to your life. A happy and less stressed Mom is a better Mom!
So spend time with your partner. Take a romantic dinner with them from time to time. Keep in contact and maintain that relationship. You will be happier and a better parent for it!
Maybe you have older children in the family. Just because they may be more independent, they still need the connection and support of their Mom. Let them know you are still there for them!
Well, there you have it! Our tips for a better balanced life as a working Mom.
If you have any experience of being a working Mom, we would love to hear all about it in the comments section below. What advice do you have?